Log in

No account? Create an account
I'm not lost, I just don't know where I'm going.
But I'm determined to enjoy the journey.
Writer's Block: Yes, offense taken 
25th-Oct-2009 22:08
ginko with tea 3
If a friend or relative makes a racist or homophobic remark, do you tend to confront them or let it slide? Are you more likely to confront them if it offends you directly or someone else who seems reluctant to speak up?

I'd also add 'sexist' up there with racist and homophobic.

If it's my dad, I typically let it slide because I've argued with him before and I can't change his mind. I also sometimes don't speak up because I don't want to be that person who argues about everything and has to enforce her views as being the only acceptable truth. (Which I just did in #asr on a grammar/spelling issue.)

It mostly depends on how safe I feel in the company I'm in. Among my good friends, I feel comfortable enough to speak up when something strikes me as wrong. It rarely happens that I need to. But generally I'm a bit coward and worry about what people will think of me.

I'm only slightly more likely to speak up about something that offends me personally, and much more likely to speak up against something that could offend someone I care about. Afraid of being seen as oversensitive, I guess.

Oh, and it REALLY bothers me when someone says "no offense" - the term is "no offense intended" - just saying "no offense" strikes me as "you are not allowed to be offended by this because I say so" instead of "I don't mean to offend"
26th-Oct-2009 11:53 (UTC)
I want to speak up about the "no offense" bit. For me the only one way I've ever heard people use it is by saying "no offense". So saying "no offense intended" actually sounds off to me, even if there is obviously nothing wrong with that phrasing.
26th-Oct-2009 21:29 (UTC)
In my mind "no offense?" is a question, and I expect the person asking to look around the room (or whatever) and look for expressions of dissent.
This page was loaded Jul 23rd 2019, 12:44 am GMT.